Mx. D. E. Anderson

i want to give some context to this wrt to that viral video of the lady who complained about the boobies in Oppenheimer. I did a little research because the commentary sounded like evangelical speak cloaked in therapy language.

And sure enough I did a bit of digging and it looks like they got married at a Brethren in Christ church, which believes marriage is between a man and a woman, etc etc. Fairly predictable at this point.

I don't know that she is still part of that church but it's likely.

here's the thing for the evangelical church and porn: because evangelicals tend to lack a sense of scale, looking at porn a couple of times a week is "addiction" to them.

Here is the case they make, from an article about Jourdan:

"there's no evidence for it but we believe it exists." Notice how neatly they tie together viewing porn and masturbation and how it is assumed that basically no masturbation is a default state for a human.

In the article linked above, Jourdan compares the moment of learning that her husband has been watching porn - her husband who was stationed overseas for two years without his family! - to feeling like she just learned he cheated on her.

Again, there is no sense of scale here: normal bodily urges (horniness) lead to sins (masturbation, porn) and therefore the husband hides it which leads to the wife feeling betrayed in a scale that feels unwarranted for most of us but for them, it is warranted.

But BECAUSE there is no sense of scale, ANY sexuality outside of the marriage bed is pathologized into an "addiction" and the man is merely a victim of the world, rather than allowed to see himself as a human with needs.

And, again, that lack of scale ALSO means that when a person's natural normal sexuality has been pathologized, ANY nudity or naked bodies becomes literally dangerous.

I know this because I grew up in that culture. I had a friend who, in college, would take a spoon with her to art museums and hold it up to block out the nudity. Imagine looking at the statue of David partly covered with a spoon.

That's the context she's coming from: a complete inability to contextualize or understand nudity in any way. It's absurd to us, but it makes perfect sense to them.

Mon Aug 21 00:39:37 +0000 2023